FRIENDS AND FOES

According to me, friends always fall into two categories :The honest and the dishonest

An honest friend is the loyal one who says straight to your face ; "You are wrong, bro. You should not be doing this !" Or " Buddy, I admire you for this ". He is there to watch your back in times of trouble and shares your happiness when you win a race. This is the most ideal friend. But, as per my experience, most around us keep away from this kind, because people generally don't like to be told  " you are wrong " .

A dishonest friend is like an advertisement which promises you all the good times but behind lies a face that cant be brought out in the light. They sing with you as long as you can sing , dance with you as long as you have two legs, they will clap for you even when you do the cheapest thing;but the moment you fall, the moment you start talking sense- trust me , they wont even remember your face.

And for some reason, many of us think that the people who always say " yes" to us are our friends. But,  isn't it obvious that the ones who are your friends will always mean good and be brutally honest?

I have learned from many of my friends , small yet priceless lessons. The biggest lesson I learned was from one of my best friends who told me ; " if you keep trying to tell your friends when they are wrong; one of them will slap you one day " .

Is honesty the best policy?

THE KRONICLES : The Ultimate Gains

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With just days for me to step out of this institution, serious questions are arising in my mind. It is gladdening that finally I have learned to come up with questions for everything that goes around me, though I don't get answers for half of my queries.

The question that constantly nags me is what have I gained from the six years at college? This might not be a surprise question to many because I know that majority are with me in that. So, this is the account of my quest for its answer which started off right from the moment I began typing this out.

Six years! It passed so quickly by I hardly can forget each and every second of it. It was an experience that taught me what I should be and what I should not be. Fortunately or unfortunately, the latter list is the longest. I learned that it is hard to be what I am, because everywhere people are more concerned about how bad others are than of oneself. So unless one develops a very tough skin (get it patented first to avoid further troubles!!), it is difficult to be oneself. Hmm..

“Past experience, if not forgotten, is a guide to the future.”My first gain is the hoard of lessons I learned ((of course, not from the books!)).So what were the valuable lessons that I learned?

1.  Befriend yourself first, then think of befriending others. There are situations when you have no one but yourself, if you don’t want to be lonely, then be your friend first!!Because, you are the only person who knows you and sticks by you through thick and thin.

2.  You don’t have to prove to others anything. Ultimately, it’s you and your life. So, every time you fall, be happy that you have learned yet another lesson and that you are richer in lessons. In fact, I have fallen more than once and have been so adamant that I would not learn anything from it. I sulked and kept on blaming myself rather than thinking of the brighter side. Somewhere, I realized with the help of some wonderful teachers and friends, that whatever happens, I have to be me!!

3.   A true friend is the one who is there for you all the time, who believes that it is his duty to tell you that you are wrong when you have committed a blunder, the one who loves you for being YOU, with all the negative and positive traits, most importantly, the one who wants you to be a better person and wants you to succeed . So, when you have people clapping for you, even when you keep doing one mistake after another, ask once, to your heart “are they really my friends?”

4.  “All that smiles is not true”. There is good and bad in everything. But, when you have people around, who know to smile at others, and later talk ill of them, BE ALERT!! If they are doing this to others, they can do the same to you. These are the signals that will help you to understand that for the good of others, stay far from the “smileys”. Else, you will drown in their negative aura, and will be infected with the deadliest virus, nothing will seem right to you from then on.

5.  Every action has an equal and opposite reaction. The more good you are, the greater the hurdles you have to face. Stay the same but be willing to change for the better.

These are the excerpts from a page of the epic of my college life. I guess these lessons are indeed a gain after the series of losses that incurred.

“One may have friends all over the world, but very few will truly know your heart.”This was the greatest realization, I ever had. The art of dealing with human character and thoughts is hard to learn. What makes it even more complex is that we are all are trying to live up to William Shakespeare’s words (in the opposite way that would have left even Shakespeare speechless!). “All the world’s a stage, And all the men and women merely players: They have their exits and their entrances, And one man in his time plays many parts,” The only problem is that we are trying to play the many parts at the same time. Alas, there are no Oscars for this bit of finest acting.

All the above beating around the bush, finally leads me to the conclusion that my second gain is the few but trustworthy friends that I have amassed. When everything around me had gone wrong, more than once, I had my friends ((my guardian angels)) who constantly reminded that they were there for me. “When people are true friends, even shared water tastes sweet.” Some one very wise had written the above quote. In my case, I would like to add that the single bar of chocolate shared by many, in between classes were the sweetest!!

The third gain is the memories that I have, the bitter and the sweet!!Though at times I feel that life (or some people??) is unkind, I cannot ignore the memories that are enriching me. Memories are priceless, they have the magic to keep us alive on the dullest of days and to make us sad on the happiest days. How can I forget the small trips to some beautiful places with great friends, the classes when all are in their own worlds, the silly but funny games and pranks played, the jokes that can make only us laugh, the times when my friends begged me to stop the recital of my never ending tales so that they could get some rest to their ears (hey guys, I know that I have never granted your requests, but still, I don’t repent it. Because, we did get many moments to look back and laugh upon later in life)….memories are countless!!  It’s a treasure that is not trade -able. I cling on to it and will continue doing so!!

I guess I am lucky enough to realize my gains and jot it down, because I am feeling so overwhelmed. Even the seconds that passed by, had light years of gifts in store for me, most of which I did not care enough of, but some of which had more than enough care for me!! The list is not complete and never will it, but for the time being, these three make me a billionaire!! Thanks a zillion times to all those who have made me the richest. My college life is not just about me, it’s about the lives of who have touched my life in small but significant ways. And, this is for them for lighting up my life. Let not my words nor my memories fade away, because without these, I am incomplete!!

THE KRONICLES : The Extraordinary Lives of Extraordinary People

This could be termed as one of the many embarrassing incidents in my college life. In a way, it is not new to some of the girls out there, but, it was new to me until it happened for the first time. I still don't know how it happened or what led to what. Ultimately it happened, and I had to get used to it for many more times. 

Some girls accidentally enter the men's washroom. It is acceptable. It is a plain genuine mistake from their part. What if someone gets in there by external influences? Is that acceptable?Here is my story.

Pic Courtesy: RB

I had this harmful habit of irritating guys and getting into fights with them Half the time in college would be spent running around in college, either after a guy to pinch his skin off or before a guy who would be after my life. It was fun as long as I ended up winning. But, it happened rarely or to better put it, it never happened. It was always my short term goal that never was achieved.

"An idea can change your life". Well, it really changed mine. No apple fell on that  persons head like Newton's , neither was he lying in a tub like Archimedes, when this occurred to him. It is his sheer brilliance, I would say, that gave birth to the idea of locking me inside the gents washroom whenever I troubled him. ( I am discounting the fact that I was truly an inspiration to this person by making his life truly difficult with my angelic behavior ). That is how the saga of entering the guys washroom began.

It was just a routine on some of the days, with some calling me as the unofficial "gents loo inspector", to put it more artistically. What was the methodology of accomplishing this? It was quite simple and had just five steps. The technique could be compared to the way dogs were lured with bones. 

First Step:

One of my many opponents-cum-friends would become irritated by my antics, usually accompanied  by a small tug-of-war between the two of us. Often, joined by many on the other side and me fighting alone royally.

Second Step:

When the war was about to be lost, I always cashed in on the weapons I had: my really strong, sharp nails. That got them running.

Third Step:

The smell of a victory always boosted my energy. I ran behind them no matter how small my steps were or how slow my pace was or how funny my running was.

Fourth Step:

They conveniently got in the gents washroom and acted as perfect baits. I was lured by my lust for victory and would loiter near the area. The whole world could see me, but I was convinced that I was good at sneaking and spying on them.

Fifth Step:

During one of those vulnerable moments, I would be conveniently pulled into the washroom , the same time, they jumped out and locked the door from outside.

As quick as lightening, this all used to happen. Before I realized, I would be peeping out through the small glass window on the door, waiting for my freedom. 

The most embarrassing situation was when some other guy opened the door, and I walked out. Poor him, he must have been shocked and confused so much, that he went away without even entering the washroom. Second instance was when, I was pushed in and there was already some body inside. This time, I was shocked.

These were awkward moments, but when I look back now, I can do nothing but laugh till my stomach aches. I am not embarrassed to say " Thanks for the extraordinary " memories guys. I love you all.

REMEMBER ME

All the bygone years,rain I did detest,
You walked into my life,
And the changes you made,little did I expect.
Slowly,I was learning.. ,to love the rain...


Innumerable days,we spent ,soaking in the rain,
And little did we care,of the untimely woes.
"Ours was a friendship,blossomed in the rain",
Nothing can break it,not even our foes.

It was another monsoon day,
That drove me to misery.
With tears in our eyes,we parted our ways,
Assuring each other,never to cry.

Now,as the raindrops kiss my face,
I miss our walks in the rain.
Each raindrop is your trace.
I hope you too remember me, in each rain...

LOST FRIEND

A step way,but miles apart,
This makes my happiness to depart.
You are there in this world so wide,
How I wish to have you by my side.


You seem to haunt me day and night,
I seem to like you more,by every sight.
Yet,you pass by like a stranger,
Indifference ,just grows stronger.

Walking past me ,with cold eyes,
You leave me ,as frozen as ice.
Slowly melting...melting away,
In your cruel,unfriendly way.

Hopes were there,as high as Everest,
Knowing you were the sweetest.
Never it stays, bright forever,
Meeting their ends, as soon as ever.

Sun and stars, rise and set,
I find everything difficult to forget.
I know a day will come,
And surely,you will have to come.

HOPE

When I was alone,
I wished to have you by my side.
Along the thorny roads I traversed,
Hoping to meet you at its end.
The end was reached, I found none,
But the arms of loneliness embracing me.
It held me tight ,caressing my hair,
For once I knew how heavy my heart was.
Time did fly to places unknown,
I got a friend solely to be mine.
Still, when my end was near,
I hoped for a hand to hold mine tight.
It remained a hope, a wish,
Because you never came along....

FRIEND

Lean and tall, with curly hair,
a toothy smile , making everyone stare.
I saw her from a distance ,
and, liked her at that instance.


She was , just a handclasp away,
But, I never got into her way.
A year passed by as swift as wind,
for me, she was never a friend.

Around the corner , another year ends,
and as if by magic , we are friends.
With the gaps slowly filling in,
I came to know her within.

A meek heart burdened with pains,
a life in which misfortune wins.
Life is no bed of rose for her ,
but I know the tough fighter in her.

Love for her , never will fade,
this is true as a promise made.
Let her be safe from Oblivions curse
and, live for a lifetime without any fears...

FOR YOU

Stood by them,with the heart of a rock,
unable to find the mock in their talk.
Life played yet another prank,
I was made a fool to be frank.


Cruel is the word ,I say,
for treating me in a merciless way.
Mistakes were a part of the past,
but deepest are the shadows they cast.

Life once seemed to be lively ,
gradually I began to feel so lonely.
Silence, just silence to grab on,
with no shoulder to lean upon.

Tears and wails lost in the air,
Gods don't seem to play fair.
Hardest are the tasks at hand,
with everyone talking behind my back.

A comforting hand to hold tight,
a faithful shoulder in times of fight.
A trusting heart in times of emotions ,
these are just my imaginations.

Will you be my trusted friend ,
for you will my heart be lend.
Stand by me all the time,
because i miss you every time.

WHEN

Pic Courtesy : Soumya

When life becomes a question,
and the need to survive has become a mission.
When the path you travel vanishes ,

 and, every action is against your wishes.
When each second freezes,
and, the days break into pieces .
When familiar faces turn unfamiliar,
and, your eyes portray you a liar.
When your life is offered a price ,
and, you have no one to turn for advice.
When you know everyone ,
and, you are known by none.
When your dreams are no longer dreams,
and, your ears are full of screams.
When smiles turn to be fake,
and, your own existence is at stake.
When you are in the midst of everyone,
and, you feel that you have none.
When you shed nothing but tears ,
and, you are drowning in an ocean of fears.
When others say what they dont feel,
and, you say what your heart feels.
When each day seems a burden,
and, you are imprisoned in a dark den.
Do not lose your heart ,
because ,,,,
there is always someone to be your support.